Ghosts from the past never leave you unless you break all ties. It means severing relationships with anyone who links you. It's a tough call but if you do it it's life changing. We don't need reminding constantly about failings, regrets, how we suffered. And we don't have to be honourable and suffer for some sense of duty. Women are plagued with these obligations and with guilt. But other people manipulate guilt for their own ends and it becomes a battle sword in an unwinnable war. Moving on, especially from negative familial ties, can free you from the tragedies of the past and in this way we can be reborn. A new life without the ghosts of your abusers is a precious thing.